Controversial Sleep Stories That Split The Crowd

From Redditor u/I_miss_sleep_dearly:

I (37F) have some sleep problems when it comes to my boyfriend (33M), and I think I could be the a**hole for my reactions.

The first problem has to deal with two cats that were thrown at us by force, compliments of his ex-wife. She told his kids that they’d be thrown away in the pound if we didn’t take them, so I, of course, said they could stay here. His ex is another AITA post, but this one has to deal with sleep.

My boyfriend insists the cats sleep in the bed. This wouldn’t be a problem, except they jump all over me at night, and one is prone to throwing up. Last night, he threw up on my pillow, which resulted in me finally putting my foot down and closing the bedroom door. There was little sympathy for me and my barf-covered pillow but tons for the lonely, sad cats who only have billions of other places to rest their cute, fuzzy heads.

Sadly, cats are only part of my sleepless nights. The second is my boyfriend’s habits. When we go to bed at night, I’d love to just pass out on my pillow, but I can’t. Unfortunately, my man likes to stay up an hour later reading Reddit or whatever he does on his phone. His legs shake the entire time, and he vapes, keeping me up along with him until I finally convince him sleeping would be awesome. I have suggested on multiple occasions that he could read downstairs, but he refuses.

You’d think that’d be the end of the story, but he also apparently can’t sleep past like, 6 hours, resulting in him once again on the phone, vaping, waking me up early after going to bed late.

Now, the part where I might be the ah. I’ve been getting steadily more snippy about this lackluster night of sleep. When he wakes me up, I say things like, “Why are you awake? It’s only been 6 hours. Go away.” He’s noted very grumpily that that’s not a good way to say good morning, but it doesn’t feel like a very good morning at the time. So, Reddit, AITA for snapping at my boyfriend for his sleep torture?

From Redditor u/notatypicaltaurus:

I (21F) live in a two-bedroom, two-bathroom apartment. My boyfriend (22M) shares my bedroom and bathroom with me. My roommate (22F), let’s call her Mary, has her bathroom and bedroom. We share a kitchen/common room.

For context, Mary and I split the rent 50/50. Our names are both on the lease, as it is university housing. We are both university students. She is a senior and is graduating in 3 weeks. I am a junior, so I graduate next year. My boyfriend is a senior and is also graduating in three weeks at the same university.

Yesterday, Mary texted me that her dad is flying out for graduation, and she is looking for hotels, but they’re too expensive, so he needs to stay in my bedroom. I was very confused and taken aback by this request because it seemed completely strange and inappropriate. I told her I (and my boyfriend) would be here and would be using the room (because we live here). She said that we need to leave so that she can have the room for her dad. I asked if she could use my air mattress in either her room or in our common room that he could sleep on, and she said no. My boyfriend then told her that his friend had an extra twin bed in his room that he could use, and she said no because she “needs to babysit him.”

She told me she had no choice but to ask me and my boyfriend to leave our apartment so her dad could have my room. When I said my boyfriend and I would be staying in MY room, she said I was being unreasonable because it’s her only graduation (this is not true, as she’s going to medical school next year). It is also my boyfriend’s graduation so he needs to stay as well.

She said she just started looking for hotels 3 weeks before graduation because she had been too busy to do it earlier. Not only do I need my room, which I pay for, but I’m not comfortable with a man I’ve never met sleeping in my bed and staying in my room with my personal belongings without me being there.

AITA if I don’t let her use my room for her dad?

EDIT: My boyfriend, my roommate, and I all pay the university the same amount for our housing.

EDIT 2: Apparently, he can’t sleep in her room because she and her mom are sleeping in there, and her parents are divorced and can’t stand to be with each other. She said he can’t sleep on an air mattress because “where would she put the luggage”? Unless they’re bringing 5 suitcases each, there should be plenty of room.

EDIT 3: She told me I should move out, lol

EDIT 4: I’ve posted this in response to a few comments, but figured I’d put it here too: Graduation hasn’t happened yet. She’s no longer talking to me. I tried to diffuse the tension, apologizing to her, and she left me on read. She keeps slamming the door in my face when I get home, and every time she sees me, she slams her door and screams expletives at me, calling me words I really can’t say on here. So no, no conclusion.

From Redditor u/Dont-Call-Me-BALDY:

For context, a relative of what used to be a close friend of mine, whom we’ll call Gary for this story, contracted cancer. I (A mid-20s male) was sympathetic and even contributed $100 to a donation pool for their treatment. But Gary came to me one day and took his hat off to reveal a freshly shaven head. He told me that everyone in his family was doing it in support of his relative, and so were a lot of our mutual friends. Then he asked that I get on the bandwagon.

I told him I didn’t want to shave my head because I like my hair. My hair is black, regularly combed, and well-styled. He said I could just get a wig or something and had brought his shaver kit. He was unboxing it when I told him this was not happening. I don’t even really know his relative he’s doing this for. So I’m not doing it, end of discussion. He called me an a**hole and left angry. We didn’t speak for a week. Then last Saturday I got invited to a party at another close friend’s house. There, I found out that Gary had tried the same thing on several other friends, and only a couple of them shaved their heads.

Gary wasn’t at the party, so I had a blast hanging out, playing video games, and listening to rock music. But I had way too much to drink and couldn’t drive home. So they said I could just sleep upstairs. I passed out on a bed, and it was a blissful sleep till I was shaken awake by another friend who told me Gary had showed up late, and they caught him shaving my head while I was passed out. I saw what I looked like in a mirror and wanted to scream like I was in a horror movie. Gary even shaved off one of my eyebrows.

Gary was still there and acting proud of himself, saying, “Now you’re gonna have to shave off the rest, just like me! LOL!” I was furious and called the cops. When they got there, Gary fully admitted to what he had done to me and even said he was justified. The police didn’t seem to think so, as this is classified as a form of assault. They asked me if I wanted to press charges, and the first words out of my mouth were, “HELL YES!” Gary cussed me out while they took him away in cuffs. I tried getting my hair restyled into something presentable. But there was no saving it, and now I’m bald, too.

Now, a bunch of Gary’s family are telling me to drop the charges because Gary was off his meds and didn’t mean to do it. I was like, “WTF?!” because I never knew he was on meds. But I still refused to drop the charges. It’ll take months to grow my hair back the way it was. But all of the calls and messages from Gary’s relatives are starting to get to me. Just about everyone else in our friend group has cut Gary out, though, and say that I’m doing the right thing by not dropping the charges. So now I’m divided.

AITA for pressing charges on a former friend for shaving my head in my sleep?

EDIT: I want to make something clear here. So many people have said things like, “Dude, it’s just hair!”. But would they all be saying that if I wasn’t a man? What if I was some girl that had hair that took years to grow? Would they be saying the same thing? Sure, hair grows back. But it takes time. If it was something that grew back fast, people would be less inclined to care. But it’s not fast. It takes months. And for some who had long hair, years. That’s a lot of time wasted growing.

And I don’t plan on pushing for Gary to go to prison. But I don’t plan to drop the charges either. His family already bailed him out. And while I didn’t know he was on meds, I knew he had quite the temper and even an entitled attitude at times.

One example was a lunch where he wanted us all to combine the checks and split them evenly. He got the most expensive thing on the menu. I got a cheeseburger. When we all said, “No” Gary went off on us for not being good friends. He’s always been an a*s when he doesn’t get his way. And I’ve only known him for like three years. This incident was the last straw for not just me but a lot of other mutual friends.

As for the charges, I don’t want to send Gary to prison. But I would like him to get some therapy and community service. With the way Gary has acted around me in the past and what he did to me, I wonder how long before he got more violent. I’ve seen and heard of him getting in fights for less.

EDIT 2: I’ve gotten many comments from people saying, “YTA! He has cancer!”. If you read what I posted, Gary is not the one with cancer. A relative of his, I don’t know, does. And no, I don’t know what kind of cancer. Gary didn’t elaborate. He wanted me to shave my head for this person. And when I refused, he left in a tantrum. Then, shaved my head while I was passed out drunk at a party.

From Redditor u/omgjdh:

I (19M) have a roommate. He has a girlfriend (call her L) since they have been seeing each other, and when she’s been staying around, she has walked in on me and pulled the covers off as a joke. She’s also walked in on me and my girlfriend, which was the final straw. My roommate has been doing nothing about this, saying “I can’t control her”.

A few days ago my girlfriend was in our flat and so was L. My girlfriend has been getting pi**ed at L walking in on us. I told her to sleep naked, and she will stop, probably. At 6, me and my girlfriend were sleeping, and L busted through the door and saw us butt naked together. She screamed like she saw a murder scene. My roommate walked in and told us we should have been wearing clothes. I told him that she needed to learn about privacy first. He told us we were acting childish.

We didn’t care if we were acting childish. She needed to know that it’s weird walking in on people like that. So AITA?

From Redditor u/bedsaredumb:

I (37F) am about to have two visitors to my apartment in a couple of weeks (42M, 39F). I have a king bed that I sleep in, and I have a queen-sized Murphy bed in my office. The couple will be staying a night at my place before continuing on their road trip. For additional context, I’m 6’0 and built like a brick s**t house- This couple is both over six feet and in the very overweight/very large category.

The issue — the couple asked to spend the night, and I said, sure, I have a bed. They asked if they could have my bed — the king size — and I said no. This led to a “we’d be more comfortable before our road trip if we got to sleep in the bigger bed.” I said, “You have a queen-size bed or an air mattress as your options at my place — take your pick.” They called me an a**hole and said they would discuss it further closer to the date of their arrival.

WIBTA for not letting them sleep in my bed?

From Redditor u/Training-Ticket-3286:

My family is all staying at my parent’s next month, and my 2 siblings are all insisting they can’t share rooms with their children.

One sibling wants 3 rooms, one for them, and one for their 5-year-old, one for their 3-year-old.

The other sibling said they need one for them and then one for their 9-month-old, as they won’t sleep in a cot in the same room as their parents now that he’s transitioned to his room at home.

Therefore, this means that my parents are saying they will just sleep on the sofa and give their room to my sister, which I feel is ridiculous as one of the little ones will be in a crib in a room with an unused double bed.

I am staying in a hotel nearby with my child and husband, as our little one doesn’t sleep well, and we don’t want to be the reason everybody is woken up.

I told them this was ridiculous, and that somebody should share a room with their child as my poor parents in their 70s shouldn’t be sleeping on the sofa. They think I don’t understand, but I’m being an a**hole by guilting them. I’m not staying there, so I shouldn’t have an opinion. Therefore… AITA?

Note: this is only for 2 nights.